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   - **You are human**, you already won the most improbable lottery, you already have and are experiencing the most extraordinary thing we can think of: not only being a living organism, which is already incredibly rare among all the space [rock](rock.md) and emptiness, but being a multicellular organism, a mammal, a primate -- in fact being the most advanced organism, one capable of comprehending the world like no one else. On top of this you've already lived longer than most animals can dream of and probably have most of life still before you. You can see better than most animals, see more sharply and perceive more [colors](color.md). Among all animals you are among the best distance runners and you have highly precise and useful hands with fingers that you take for granted but which other animals would kill for. You can enjoy [music](music.md), [books](books.md), [math](math.md) and so many joys inaccessible to anyone else. If you feel like you're not good enough or that you're stupid or unlucky to live in a bad place, it may help to realize that's just a small amount of bad luck, you are in fact the genius among living organisms even if you're considered stupid among humans, only by being able to read this text you prove an incredible mental capacity.
   - **You will never disappear**, even after your death the matter that composes you will stay, by the very laws of physics it cannot ever disappear, it will only transform and you'll become part of nature, trees, oceans and dust, and the things you've done will forever leave a trace. It's a cliche saying but you WILL remain living at least in the [art](art.md) you left behind and the [information](information.md) recorded in the state of the Universe that you have affected -- even if you had no children for example, you probably gave good advice and example at least to someone, and that someone will continue to spread it further, and in this way you will forever remain a key, unerasable part of the world.
   - **Your mind is a shelter no one can take away from you**. Focus on cultivating the place, fill it with knowledge and fun activities, you can play [games](brain_software.md) just in your head, even if your body is paralyzed, if they lock you up in the prison, even if go blind and deaf and lose your limbs, you will always have a place where you can do whatever you want and the only way they can take it away from you is to kill you, in which case you will no longer care. Create virtual spaces in your head, places to resort to in time of need, keep building them every time you visit, make them cozy, they will provide a safe haven to escape to at any time.
-  - Don't compare yourself to others, but if you must, compare your situation to the less fortunate. Paradoxically it may sometimes help to watch drastic footage, for example of an accident or execution, to realize how fortunate you are to be where you currently happen to be. Many people wish for nothing more than to not be in agony, or to have something to eat, to have water to drink, someone to talk to, you always have something that someone else would considers a treasure. Although our current times are [dystopian](21st_century.md) and it's hard to not be depressed about it, the [future](future.md) will be much worse, try to see what little we still have left: small islands of quiet nature, no nuclear winter, sun still shines, [free software](free_software.md) is not illegal yet, brain chips are not yet mandatory.
+  - Don't compare yourself to others, but if you must, compare your life to the less fortunate. It may paradoxically help to even watch drastic, gory videos, for example of accidents or executions, so as to realize how fortunate you are to be where you currently happen to stand. Many people wish for nothing more than to not be in agony, or to have something to eat, to have water to drink, someone to talk to, you always have something that someone else would considers a treasure. Although our current times are [dystopian](21st_century.md) and it's hard to not be depressed about it, the [future](future.md) will be much worse, try to see what little we still have left: small islands of quiet nature, no nuclear winter, sun still shines, [free software](free_software.md) is not illegal yet, brain chips are not yet mandatory.
   - "If a problem has a solution, there's no need to worry, and if it doesn't have one, worrying won't help." Do not worry about that which is beyond your control, you can't blame yourself for what you didn't do intentionally and there's no use in trying to solve something that can't be solved, it is just wasted time and an added unnecessary suffering, it's like spending life by being worried about eventual death. If you caused harm to someone and it wasn't intentional, you can't blame yourself, an accident simply happen through you, a train driver cannot blame himself for someone having fallen under his train. If you harmed someone intentionally and feel guilty, then learn the lesson and move on, past is already gone, focus on the future, promise yourself to do better next time and don't torture yourself. Sometimes we're lucky and sometimes not, some are dealt worse cards than others, just try to make the best out of what you've got.
   - If you feel all alone in the midst of all the evil of the world, perhaps it's because the system WANTS people like you to feel alone. There are so many humans in the world that it's highly improbably you are the only one, you just haven't met the right people, many are shy, scared and hiding. Consider how deep various Internet rabbitholes go, you can follow them infinitely, keep finding communities around weirdest things, thousands upon thousands and it never ends, what you see is just the tip of the iceberg. Your soulmate is out there somewhere.
   - **You will change with age.** You think you won't but you will, the trouble you have now will either disappear or you will literally stop caring -- they will be replaced by new trouble, but whatever you think is the worst problem in the world right now will most likely turn out to be something you hardly remember 10 years later, your brain and perception of the world physically changes as you age, as does your environment. There was probably something like this 10 years ago, you now only laugh about it. Even if you don't solve the problem and it gets worse, you will simply not care about it that much -- to a young guy losing a leg or becoming blind is a tragedy, but an old man takes it much better, he rather cares about his family, a child only cares about latest video games but an adult hardly gives a shit. May you're poor but will get rich, maybe you'll get sick, find a new religion, have children, move to another country, everything will change. Just hold on and observe what the fate has for you.
   - **If you're depressed about the [future](future.md), simply focus on the present**, live day to day and go step by step, things will probably turn out much different than what you imagined anyway and many problems often just solve themselves (even if new, unforeseen ones emerge as well). In retrospect you will probably find you didn't even have any power over what would eventually happen, so don't worry too much. Having plans and being ready certainly helps, but don't obsess over worrying too much if you can. If you don't know what to do, do what you know and then you'll see.
+  - As much as we'd like to pretend otherwise at times, we are never absolutely certain about the [future](future.md), and it has shown time and time again that many predictions turn out completely off. And while yes, this may scare us, it also means there is always at least a little bit of hope. So even if everything seems fucked, one can always choose to hold on and hope, it's another form of freedom that can't be taken away.
+  - **You are constantly peaking at something**. It is called the "mid life crisis", the depression over the fact that one has passed his "peak". Biologically this peak comes around the age of mid 20s. And it's true that pure mental and physical condition reaches its top around that age, but these two variables simply aren't all that makes up a human. A human is much more than strength of his arms and time needed to solve a puzzle. For example the peak of your wisdom may come at 60, your expertise in a subject may be best around 50, as well as your self confidence and personal charm maybe, your [freedom](freedom.md) may reach its highest the moment you retire from [work](work.md), and your happiness -- who knows? It is also guaranteed that any new skill you decide to learn in the future, such as [chess](chess.md) or crocheting or painting, you still haven't reached your peak at. There are many variables, so don't get depressed about just one or two of them.
+  - Grass looks greener on the other side -- yes, everyone knows the saying but it's always difficult to admit it might be the case when feeling you REALLY want something you just can't have right now. Let's just repeat it then: whatever it is you wish for, it would likely make you happy to reach, but only for a short time. You'd slowly start to realize the negative sides you aren't seeing now and you might quite likely wish to go back soon. People living in cold northern countries long to live in hot, sunny climates, and vice versa, and a poor peasant wishes for nothing else than the riches of the factory owner, unable to see the rich guy's family is falling apart because his gold digging wife is cold, cheating, and sucking dry his credit cards, and that the rich guy would trade his money for having a good family like the peasant has. Of course life isn't always this fair, some are happier and some more miserable, but generally it is true more often than we're willing to admit that we long for that which we can't have only for that fact alone, and so try to ask what you have that others don't, what you're thankful for. In this it may also be helpful to willingly give up something you have for a while, for example go sleep in a forest for a few days and you'll suddenly not only know, but FEEL how lucky you are to have a warm bed at home, food, people to talk to, or whatever else you now take for granted.
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