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cope.md

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 - If (you feel like) nobody [loves](love.md) you, then know that at least [drummyfish](drummyfish.md) does.
-- Now if it's real serious, like [suicidal](suicide.md) thoughts serious, then rather seek help, there's no shame in it. You can refuse drugs or hospitalization, just talk to someone, that alone helps a lot. There's always some kind of anonymous hotline at least, it won't hurt to give it a try, no one has to know.
+- Now if it's real serious, like [suicidal](suicide.md) thoughts serious, then rather seek help, there's no shame in it. You're not weak, even the strongest have their limits and you were probably unlucky enough to find yours. You can refuse drugs or hospitalization, just talk to someone, that alone helps a lot. There's always some kind of anonymous hotline at least, it won't hurt to give it a try, no one has to know.
 - Going out to the nature always helps, or at least it can never hurt. Walking, nature, sun and fresh air help the body and healthy body leads to healthy mind, it's been known for thousands of years that pilgrimages heal the mind. Animals are best companions, go outside and observe them, play with them, talk to them. Do simple tasks, try to create something out of [wood](wood.md), collect [rocks](rock.md), draw something in the sand. If you're alone, singing is therapeutic as well, try it. Someone likes sports and getting tired physically to clear the mind. Definitely get off the Internet for a while, grab a physical book if you feel like reading something.
 - Talking and sharing your trouble is almost guaranteed to help, even if you get no advice or resolution, simply getting it off your chest is literally such a huge relief. Talk to someone, to your friends or parents, it will be a little better. { If you have no one else to talk to, you can send me an email, I will listen. ~drummyfish }
 - Get the feelings out (but not by hurting someone else, of course). If you feel sad, then cry, swear, run outside, tell someone how you feel, do whatever you have to to let it out. Some like to write down their thoughts, some like to listen to music, go through old photos, just don't suppress your feelings -- if not dealt with, they stay and become harder to get rid of.
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   - "If a problem has a solution, there's no need to worry, and if it doesn't have one, worrying won't help." Do not worry about that which is beyond your control, you can't blame yourself for what you didn't do intentionally and there's no use in trying to solve something that can't be solved, it is just wasted time and an added unnecessary suffering, it's like spending life by being worried about eventual death. If you caused harm to someone and it wasn't intentional, you can't blame yourself, an accident simply happen through you, a train driver cannot blame himself for someone having fallen under his train. If you harmed someone intentionally and feel guilty, then learn the lesson and move on, past is already gone, focus on the future, promise yourself to do better next time and don't torture yourself. Sometimes we're lucky and sometimes not, some are dealt worse cards than others, just try to make the best out of what you've got.
   - If you feel all alone in the midst of all the evil of the world, perhaps it's because the system WANTS people like you to feel alone. There are so many humans in the world that it's highly improbably you are the only one, you just haven't met the right people, many are shy, scared and hiding. Consider how deep various Internet rabbitholes go, you can follow them infinitely, keep finding communities around weirdest things, thousands upon thousands and it never ends, what you see is just the tip of the iceberg. Your soulmate is out there somewhere.
   - **You will change with age.** You think you won't but you will, the trouble you have now will either disappear or you will literally stop caring -- they will be replaced by new trouble, but whatever you think is the worst problem in the world right now will most likely turn out to be something you hardly remember 10 years later, your brain and perception of the world physically changes as you age, as does your environment. There was probably something like this 10 years ago, you now only laugh about it. Even if you don't solve the problem and it gets worse, you will simply not care about it that much -- to a young guy losing a leg or becoming blind is a tragedy, but an old man takes it much better, he rather cares about his family, a child only cares about latest video games but an adult hardly gives a shit. May you're poor but will get rich, maybe you'll get sick, find a new religion, have children, move to another country, everything will change. Just hold on and observe what the fate has for you.
+  - **If you're depressed about the [future](future.md), simply focus on the present**, live day to day and go step by step, things will probably turn out much different than what you imagined anyway and many problems often just solve themselves (even if new, unforeseen ones emerge as well). In retrospect you will probably find you didn't even have any power over what would eventually happen, so don't worry too much. Having plans and being ready certainly helps, but don't obsess over worrying too much if you can. If you don't know what to do, do what you know and then you'll see.
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